1 Peter 3:1-4

In the same way, wives, be subject to your own husbands. Then, even if some are disobedient to the word, they will be won over without a word by the way you live,  when they see your pure and reverent conduct.  Let your beauty not be external—the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes—  but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and tranquil spirit, which is precious in God’s sight.

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,  when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.  Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.  Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,  when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.  Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—  rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

Wives In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over  by observing your pure and reverent lives.  Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.  You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.  Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;  But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.


This is about conforming to the image of Jesus Christ in a God-given role: specifically the role of a wife. This verse reveals that a wife’s beauty comes from within, and the adornment of this beauty is pleasing in God’s sight. What is precious in the sight of God? The answer is “the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”. A wife surrendered to Christ bears a meek and quiet spirit by the power of His grace. Her husband is a recipient of the transforming grace and testimony offered to him though his wife, which is able to win him over. Submission is a sub-mission, and that mission is the transformation of her husband’s heart for Jesus made possible by the sovereign grace of God at work in her life.